Being Single: The Best Way to Prepare for a Relationship

By, Amanda Hallesjo

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A lot of people think that being in a relationship is the best part of their lives. I believe they’re wrong. There will always be things about ourselves that we know off the top of our heads, such as our height or our weight. But being single allows you to discover the secrets you need to know to one day be in a happy relationship.

Being single allows you to find yourself and what you really like. Do I like guys or do I like girls? What are my strengths and weaknesses? Am I social or quiet? Am I an honest person or am I too scared to speak up? There are so many traits that you will find out about yourself when you’re single that are crucial in a relationship. Being single is about looking for something to love and not necessarily needing it back. It’s about being the best version of you instead of making someone else a better person.

If you have more question marks than exclamation points about yourself before entering a relationship, even though the relationship could potentially be great, it will most likely crash. The secret of a successful relationship is to stay single as long as possible. Being single doesn’t mean staying at home with a tub of popcorn to your right and a soda to your left while watching Netflix (unless you’re binge-watching House of Cards); rather, it’s about going out and exploring. Meet new people from all walks of life. Being single is about gaining confidence. Tell yourself you’re beautiful and awesome—you don’t need to hear that from someone else.

When you’re in a relationship, you sometimes need to put someone else’s life in front of yours. It’s not always you who comes first. But being single means that you can do whatever you want without the need of someone else’s opinion. You are capable of seizing the day according to your preferences and that is a rare luxury.

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Shared happiness is the best happiness, but to get there you need to cherish your single life. The greatest life goal for a lot of people is to find your soul mate and get married. To share your life with someone you love with your whole heart and someone you can trust in every situation. But to love someone to that extent, you need to love yourself first. You need to trust your values, learn how find your passion in life and to always stay true to yourself.

Being single prepares you for that one day when you’re standing at the alter looking at your soul mate with no question marks—just a heart filled with the confidence you’ve gained from loving yourself as an individual.