Wedding Basics in 4 Steps
By, Gretchen Gales
Making the Announcement
After you or your partner finally popped the question, you’ll want to cry, hug it out, take pictures, and post said pictures on social media for everyone to adore and be envious of your love. But before you do that, tell the people closest to you first. You can of course take pictures together, but don’t post them on social media until you’ve informed your family and close friends. Don’t text this either, because this is definitely an in-person or a personal call occasion. Also start picking out stationary for official engagement announcements, save-the-dates, and of course the wedding invitations.
Start Discussing Plans
Always dreamt of a December wedding? Can’t decide between a destination wedding or one that’s outdoors? You don’t need to set a date right away, as you’ll be too overjoyed and in love to even think about planning. But within the next few days, start thinking about how long you need to plan and prepare for the event. Hire a wedding planner or keep a detailed notebook with you and write down every detail. Next you’ll need to hire vendors, find an officiant, photographers, videographers, and musicians. This is also the time to determine whether or not you want a wedding party.
Control Your Budget
We all want to feel like Beyoncé at our wedding, but remember that you may not have the same funds. Same-sex couples tend to pay for their own wedding, which means you’ll need to budget. Divide up your budget into the following categories, attached with the typical breakdown of funds:
· Reception: 40%
· Honeymoon: 14.5%
· Photography and videography: 10.5%
· Attire (dresses, suits, etc.): 7%
· Engagement rings and wedding bands: 6%
· Flowers: 5%
· Music: 5%
· Invitations: 2%
· Other: 10%
For a lot of same-sex couples, the wedding ring funds can be allocated elsewhere as they may have already had a commitment ceremony and still have those rings. If you want to spend more money on the honeymoon, consider cutting things at the wedding you don’t really need. Maybe instead of hiring a professional DJ, get a charismatic friend, instead. If you still have the attire from your commitment ceremony, bring new life to it with new accessories.
The Big Day
Have a game plan ready. Around the time of the rehearsal dinner you should go over plans with the officiant and the venue to make sure everything will go as smoothly as possible. If you’ve written your vows, calmly rehearse them in private, and don’t forget them the day of! Remember that your special day will probably still not be perfect. There could be minor hiccups, but don’t stress too much over it. Devote your attention to your loved one instead.